The skill of staying positive

Encourage your young person to think about their upcoming transition to secondary school and answer the following questions about it on their worksheet.

  1. What are they really looking forward to?
  2. What are they worried about?
  3. What do they think they need to do to get organised for secondary school for the first term?

Briefly discuss their answers, you will revisit these later. Now outline the following scenarios which could arise after starting secondary school and ask your young person to think about how they might respond. They can use the space in the worksheet to record two reactions for to each situation; what their first instinctive reaction is and a more positive one which helps resolve the problem.

Discuss their answers and emphasise the value of reacting in a positive way that helps diffuse a problem, rather than making it worse. Positive responses could include carrying a map, finding all classrooms ahead of time, asking a teacher or older student for directions, not worrying as they can explain and apologise to the teacher for being late, talking to your teachers about homework concerns, planning time ahead to give to each subject.

Now go back to discussing the worries they identified earlier about starting secondary school. Ask your young person; do they think feeling fear is negative?

Explain that it is normal to feel fear when we are faced with challenges, but overcoming those fears and challenges can help us grow and develop. Using the table on worksheet, help your young person tackle their concerns by seeing their challenges as opportunities for growth instead, as well as reflecting on ways they can prepare.

Next, revisit this question; what does your young person think they need to do to get organised for their first term of secondary school?

Answers may include; practising packing their bag, ensuring they have all the required stationery, trying out their journey to and from school, organising their uniform, checking the school’s policies on mobile phones, talking to older siblings, or friends, about their experience starting secondary school.

Recap by discussing how facing a challenge positively, and preparing, can help make challenges of transitioning to secondary school seem less scary. The ability to stay positive (also known as resilience) will be useful for their journey throughout secondary school and into the workplace, so it is valuable to start practising now.

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